8 weeks until D Day!!

[lea74]

Thanks Flo that is a good response. My sister made an interesting obversation when I told her the comment. She said:

So S7 is okay with replacing H already. He has really made a big impression on them.

My BIL does some guy stuff with my boys, but I am also pretty handy with a baseball bat and football.

[lea74]

Hi G,

I just saw this response frm you - sorry I must have missed it somehow in all my venting.

Yes, he is angry as he would like things to go his way. As for keeping the OW away from sons - I doubt it. He always pushes till he gets what he wants.

I probably added fuel to the fire on Sat but pushing the whole 'who buys you gifts' thing. In hindsight, I realised this is exactly what she wanted me to do to cause yet another argument between us. Do these OW go to a finishing school and share tips on how to break up marriages?????I wouldhave tought he would provide whatever we needed to get his done, nt sure at this stage.

I did mention in the last email to him that all correspndence will now go through L.

Any iput from you would be great.

Thanks and hope you are ok.

((( ))))

[lea74]

Got a text from H today saying:

Are you are interested in Mediation to agree a financial settlement? If so, what day would be best?

I dont want to go mediation. I am not comfortable with the idea as I dont trust myself and am concerned that I will agree to something I shouldnt. It can also be very expensive and will also could be to my H's benefit. I feel like if I agree I will again be giving into what H wants.

I would like to respond via email as follows:

Whilst I appreciate that you would like to follow the mediation route. This is not something I am comfortable with. As previously mentioned all future correspondence re settlement will be via L. I am happy to discuss childcare matters via email.

What do you think?? ANy good? Or do I just ignore text?

[luvless]

don't answer...let the L do the talking.

[goldfiber]

I agree, forward to L, let him handle it. ALL D talk should go to your L now.

[lea74]

Tut, tut - why the assumption that my L is a male. SHE is a kick a$$ L. Lol

p.s. I have made those assumptions before!!

p.p.s Will do, dont have time to respond Im GAL!!!

((( ))))

[goldfiber]

Enjoy! You deserve it!

[lea74]

On wednesday its H's birthday. He is coming past to take sons out for pizza (I am not invited - didnt expect to be). Anyway I am going to do a 180 and also a 'what if'. I will put on my happy face, say happy birthday, give him a big hug and give him the birthday gifts from my sons that we bought together.

[flowmom]

On wednesday its H's birthday. He is coming past to take sons out for pizza (I am not invited - didnt expect to be). Anyway I am going to do a 180 and also a 'what if'. I will put on my happy face, say happy birthday, give him a big hug and give him the birthday gifts from my sons that we bought together.

Good for you! That's good parenting IMO. It's important for children to see their parents' birthdays celebrated.

[lea74]

My S10 is playing matchmaker.Lol. Tonite when my H phoned to chat to them my S10 asked my H if he wanted to talk to me. H said no. He then came to me and said dont you want to talk to H. I said No, its okay.

My S10 was upset and told me that I needed to chat to H, just general stuff. So I called H and asked what time he was fetching kids tm nite for dinner. This made my S10 happy. I didnt want to talk to my H but I know he needed to see me talk to my H so I did it for him. My H seemed happy that I called and said see me tm.

Nice to hear H being human again.