TT, I know what you're going through. I recommend that book I linked to above for confusedwife. I know that sadness, paralysis, and hopelessness could take over my life and I'm not going to let that happen. H can kill my hopes and dreams for a shared life, but he can't kill my spirit or the rest of my life. Perhaps he will be my last true love, but if that's true then I will share my life with people in other ways.
What self-care looks like for me right now:
- doing IC - starting AD - looking as awesome as I can - doing things outside of my comfort zone to broaden my horizons - reading books - spending time with friends - taking care of paperwork - trying to open my mind to having a good future, even though I have NO CLUE what that would look like
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
