Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Robox thanks. All very good points. I am listening to all of the advice given to me. It is very much appreciated as I try to save my M.

Couple of questions. When you say to be masculine to be attractive, I feel like I'm doing this by taking care of things with the house. Also, I feel like I am doing all of the things you say she needs to be challenged. I believe I am taking charge with the responsibilities. I haven't asked her for anything nor have I complained to her that she is doing nothing. It's confusing to me when you say that she wants to pursue. My question is how do I balance that? In other words, I don't want to appear that I am ignoring her when I don't answer her calls, yet I feel like I need to not be too available to her so she can pursue me. Is there a difference? Should I care if it upsets my W?

I continue to receive good advice here and I want to make sure I understand everything correctly.

The fact that she is going off her emotions, how do I change those emotions? I know to do what has been advised to me here but is there anything else or do I just need to wait it out? I'm worried that she will enjoy the new distance between us and then nothing I do will matter the longer we don't try to go to C. I am secure enough to admit that her and I should only talk about M with C as I am not always perfect responding to her emotions one on one right now.