WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[MrBond]

Your W sounds like she's going through a MLC. The idea that she is out looking for a "better life" and that the life she has with you can't be like that.

You can't really change her mind, but you can alter her perception a bit. You can tell her how you still believe in your M and that you will not share her emotionally or physically with OM. Then that's it. I wouldn't help her in any way that encourages her behavior of distancing herself.

Stand strong in your convictions, and understand that you can only control you and not her. In fact she'll call what you're doing "controlling". Don't give in to that. She's going to come up with justifications to do and say what her fogged out mind tells her. The only thing you can do is to be the rock while she's spiralling out of control.

Is the OM married? If he is, I'd tell his W. Do what you can to show her that YOU are the one who is her H.