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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love? are you kidding #1963643 03/21/10 05:34 PM
Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,053 D ddstartingover OP Member
OP ddstartingover Member D Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,053	I have read the Livestrong article, many times. I have read the MLC resources, many times. It has taken me a very LONG time to stop blaming myself for EVERYTHING, including what my H is going through, but I am finally at that point. I know what my journey is. I know that I have to focus on myself. I also know that my future is MINE and that I will be ok on my own. I believe all of this. I feel this, and understand this part of where I am at. I have been told that in order to help with detachment that I need to only respond to my H's texts and e-mails if a question is asked. This is what I have been doing. It has helped me take control-----because I am not tempted to respond with anything emotional. I know that when I let my emotions take control I am giving him continued control of how I feel. However, when I do this I do feel as if I am most likely coming off as cold and uncommunicative----please help me understand what the difference is. On the (now) rare occasions that we see each other I make sure that I am upbeat, positve and give a sense of how "OK" I am. Please, I am looking for examples on how to be detached but not cold. How to respond on a limited basis without being uncommunicative. I would love to hear examples of what has worked for people and what has not. By not responding to my H's e-mail about my L's response --- to point out that she DID respond (he must have missed it, or it went to SPAM???) am I being uncommunicative or detached????? I am really feeling unsure of the differences here. Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12

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How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/05/10 04:51 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/05/10 06:28 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	TomLost Love	03/05/10 06:48 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/05/10 07:20 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	HeartsBlessing	03/05/10 07:21 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	TomLost Love	03/05/10 07:45 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/05/10 08:09 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	courageous wife	03/05/10 08:19 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Golfgirl1	03/05/10 08:28 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/08/10 05:42 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/08/10 09:08 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Cadet	03/08/10 09:15 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	iluvme55	03/08/10 09:19 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Cadet	03/08/10 09:24 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/08/10 09:49 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/08/10 09:50 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/08/10 10:46 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 01:49 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/10/10 01:38 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 03:26 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	brandnewday	03/10/10 03:32 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 04:43 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	SoCo	03/10/10 05:13 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 05:22 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 05:25 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/10/10 05:38 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 06:07 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 07:40 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 08:48 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 08:53 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 09:08 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	figgeroni	03/10/10 09:14 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 09:46 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	mindfull	03/10/10 09:51 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 09:59 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:02 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:07 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 10:10 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:14 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:16 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:24 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:29 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:13 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:21 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 10:09 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 09:05 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 11:35 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/11/10 11:46 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 12:06 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/11/10 02:00 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 02:18 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/11/10 02:34 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 02:54 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/12/10 12:58 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/12/10 05:42 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/13/10 02:10 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Upside	03/13/10 03:04 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/13/10 03:57 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Upside	03/13/10 04:19 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 10:45 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/15/10 02:57 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 03:16 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 03:49 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Cadet	03/15/10 03:55 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 04:20 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/15/10 04:23 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/15/10 05:31 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 07:25 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 09:34 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/15/10 09:42 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 11:19 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/16/10 02:15 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/16/10 02:30 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/16/10 02:45 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/16/10 05:12 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/18/10 02:41 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 01:34 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	job	03/21/10 01:40 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 01:55 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	job	03/21/10 02:06 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 02:06 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	TrentC	03/21/10 04:55 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 04:58 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 05:02 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 05:34 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 05:48 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 05:56 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 05:56 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 06:02 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/22/10 10:46 AM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Mach1	03/22/10 08:49 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/26/10 02:25 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Mach1	03/26/10 03:47 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	04/12/10 04:01 AM
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