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Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself flowmom #1963344 03/21/10 02:19 AM
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 3,831 Connecticut G Gardener Member
Gardener Member G Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 3,831 Connecticut	fm, Originally Posted By: flowmom Well I just finished an ugly paperwork issue that I've procrastinated on for 2 years (something that H was really angry about). He won't know that I did it...but I do Hey, I missed this one! Good for you! Gardener "My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself Gardener #1963346 03/21/10 02:28 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,262 Midwest C courageous wife Member
courageous wife Member C Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,262 Midwest	FM-what book is it that you are reading right now? M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself courageous wife #1963372 03/21/10 03:29 AM
Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,466 F flowmom OP Member
OP flowmom Member F Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,466	I'm reading 10 books - books are my addiction. But Gardener and hoosiermama recommended this one and I recommend it to all the LBSes: http://www.amazon.com/Journey-Abandonment-Healing-Relationship-Beginning/dp/0425172287 It's a book to read sloooooowly, but it's very helpful. me: 42 \| STBXH: 41 \| T: 18 \| M: 10 \| separation: Jan 3, 2010 \| they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself flowmom #1963378 03/21/10 03:39 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,262 Midwest C courageous wife Member
courageous wife Member C Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,262 Midwest	Thanks FM! I am with you on the book situation! Almost more than I can handle right now! M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself flowmom #1963381 03/21/10 03:45 AM
Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,466 F flowmom OP Member
OP flowmom Member F Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,466	Gosh everyone...it blows me away that anyone reads and responds to my confused navel-gazing. Thanks to each and every one of you!!! me: 42 \| STBXH: 41 \| T: 18 \| M: 10 \| separation: Jan 3, 2010 \| they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself flowmom #1963395 03/21/10 04:11 AM
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 3,831 Connecticut G Gardener Member
Gardener Member G Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 3,831 Connecticut	Ever stop to think that some of us might consider it to be a very fine navel? Anyway, you're welcome. But what you're describing is simply what we do for each other here. God knows you've done it for me in the midst of some of my self-obsessed min-meltdowns. Good night, fm, Last edited by Gardener; 03/21/10 04:12 AM. Gardener "My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself Gardener #1963398 03/21/10 04:13 AM
Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,466 F flowmom OP Member
OP flowmom Member F Joined: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,466	LOL G!! me: 42 \| STBXH: 41 \| T: 18 \| M: 10 \| separation: Jan 3, 2010 \| they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself flowmom #1963452 03/21/10 09:53 AM
Joined: Aug 2009 Posts: 1,836 California B Butterfly1 Member
Butterfly1 Member B Joined: Aug 2009 Posts: 1,836 California	Don't feel bad, I have the procrastination/self esteem vortex issue too. On my FB profile, someone posted a really good link. Also, I love Gardeners advice. Anyhow, here's to being forgiven for one of the seven dealy sins: SLOTH! Me: 42 Him: 43 Two divorcees in a relationship

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself Butterfly1 #1963543 03/21/10 02:46 PM
Joined: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,215 R rr22 Member
rr22 Member R Joined: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,215	Hope all is going well this weekend for you, FM.

Re: flowmom \| need to commit to myself flowmom #1963633 03/21/10 05:08 PM
Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 2,757 C chatterbug Member
chatterbug Member C Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 2,757	Originally Posted By: flowmom So I just did the Learned Optimism test here: http://www.stanford.edu/class/msande271/onlinetools/LearnedOpt.html The results say that I am pretty average in how I deal with bad things happening. It's my cognitive style around good things happening that is problematic. I tend to see good things that happen as short lived (temporary), caused by someone else (external), and only affecting a partial area of my life (specific). Overall I am "very pessimistic" as a result. I can see that optimism could play a huge role in creating a better future for myself, so this is something that I'd like to investigate more. Pervasiveness Bad Score moderately optimistic Good minus Bad Score very optimistic Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!

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