Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Sandi, would you look over my last few posts if you have time? I'm confused about what to do next.

Since talking to my W Friday morning, I haven't heard from her since. We talked for 2 minutes when I called her because the rest of her stuff wss gone from the house. She had the movers at the house at 7am on Friday she said so she could get it done early so she could get to work. I think she did it on Friday so she wouldn't have to bump into me at the house this weekend. It's a beautiful weekend and I'm sure she's having a wonderful time. Meanwhile I'm working on the house again this weekend. She wants to put the house for sale so badly but yet she doesn't call me or help with the house. Unbelievable. Once again, I am the one in the M taking care of everything. It wouldn't surprise me if she is moving into her apartment this weekend. Who knows?


The next time I talk to her I feel like telling her that I am upset with her lack of responsibility. I want to tell her that she is in fantasy land and needs to snap out of it. I understand that she is going through whatever it is she is going through, but she needs to wake-up and take her responsibility with the house. I want to tell her that she is burying her head in the sand again, this time with our M. That she is running from the issues again and isn't strong enough to face them. That she thinks she has it all figured out now but in reality she does not. I want to tell her that I can look in the mirror now and accept my faults and I am doing the hard work of correcting them. I want to tell her that I have a C appt. this week and if she wants to start putting in some hard work, finally, and stop running, then she is welcome to join me. She said she wants to be challenged. Well, I would tell her to start by taking this challenge of stop running and make some effort to at least go to C.

Sandi, I'm so frustrated. Should I say these things to W or just wait and be more patient? In church today the sermon talked about letting go of the hurt from the past so that we can focus on today. The sermon talked about this in regards to M. It was so on the money with my sitch. Very powerful. I wish my W would have heard it.