The problem is what your wife wanted THEN isn't what may help now.
This is what is so crazy about the WAS and why it's very hard (I think) for the LBS. Everything has changed by the time she is ready to walk. Everything! That is why most women say, "too little, too late". So many men can't seem to get that she is "done" with all of it. He has to treat her like she is "not" his W or any romantic interest. He needs to treat her like a business associate until things begin to heal.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
