I guess everyone looks at his/her stitch as unique from others, but my H did not know any of the DB skills to apply. You and my H are completely different in the way you approach the situation.

I would have to say that when he stopped trying to force things and relaxed, then I felt more comfortable. And,the big thing was when he stopped acting all excited (well...as excited as "he" gets) whenever I showed a tiny positive sign. Whenever he would act that way, it had a negative effect on me. I suppose the WAW attributes would tend to surface. But when he started just being himself, then I could do the work. Then if I showed positive moves and he just acted normal.....I would relax and feel like I could make another step forward without him thinking everything was back to "normal" again.

For me, it took a long time before I could say that I thought things were going to be okay again. Maybe it is b/c it takes the fog lifting in tiny stages and it's that dang negative attitude the WAW has toward her H& M. My way of thinking was, "Let's just take it an hour at a time and see how it goes".

You are experiencing what some other LBH's have, the detached feelings. You are tired b/c it's been a hard journey and you can't really see the end of the road yet. Not knowing how much further it may be must be very discouraging. And, if OM should try to continue an long distance EA, that would just be the undoing of everything! Do you have any idea if he has tried to contact your W?

I think you will always love her. You found that out when you had the opportunity to have a R with somebody else. If you can't move forward with another person due to your mind constantly being on your W, then that's not fair to OP. I think you saw that and you did the right thing by not pursuing it any further.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!