Husband got a big promotion and wants to separate!

[flowmom]

LJ, sofaraway is giving you really good advice. I know it's really hard to absorb what this all means for you emotionally and practically, but please read that post very carefully and try to imagine yourself doing those things, just to open your mind to different possibilities. YOU changing inside and out WILL change you and your R with your H. No one can say whether you will reconcile, but if you see changes that are needed in your life for YOU, it's time to start making them now.

I strongly suggest that you assume that there is an A going on. Perhaps this woman isn't the OW but is involved somehow? Who knows. The point is that you can't believe what your H says right now. He close to being a WAH and you can expect lies, unfortunately.

The move being 4 months off is GOOD. That gives you some time to start DBing, GALing, and plotting your course of action.

Think about whether the move to WA is a good choice for you. Would it be a good choice even if you ended up D and living separately from your H? Because that's an outcome that you have to be prepared for. How would it be for you to be separated with no family and friends around you (making that assumption)? Don't underestimate the importance of an IRL support network at this time. I can't imagine finding my feet in a new city right now, even if it was somewhere I wanted to live. I'm really leaning on my friends.