Grit..issues that I need to deal with- definitely. I definitely have codependency issues and I know exactly where they came from. My father is an alcoholic and my M has been an enabler/codependent for many years. My father is a sweet man..fully functional..non abusive. He just carries a lot of baggage with him from a previous M that he never got over. My mother is selfless..she has a difficult time putting herself first. She just always stuck it out..plenty of excuses for never leaving even though she hated this about my father...hmmm- sounds kind of familiar.
