H4L is right. He is acting out around you and his Mom because he considers you two "safe" to act out around and he wears the mask in public and at work. He is showing you his real emotions and self right now. Do you have or are you able to get a counselor to get some support for yourself during this time. You can choose to only be around him when he is able to control himself somewhat with the anger outbursts. You have to be pleasant and act like Mother Teresa and upbeat and then remove yourself from the situation when he starts being too unreasonable. If he wants to talk about R, tell him let's schedule a time when we are both in a good mood and you are happy to. You just aren't going to discuss it when he is pitching fits.
