I had an appointment with my IC on Friday. She said that I was doing great, and had improved since I started seeing her about 5 months ago. We were meeting every two weeks; she suggested one more meeting in four weeks to see if things continue to go well for me. Of course, I can always call her if something comes up.
Was going to go out with friends Friday night, but was tired from the long week, so I stayed at home and played with my dogs. My wife went out with a friend and her daughter for the daughter's birthday. Yesterday some friends and I got together and played games.
Things seem to be improving between us, little by little. She has been cooking more and sharing with me; I have been doing the same. We've had some good conversation and I made her really laugh for the first time in months.
The big outstanding issues:
1) Very little physical affection. 2) Still sleeping in separate rooms. 3) No real discussion of the future.
She is taking an unintended vacation from World of Warcraft right now: her account was broken into! Someone looted all of her characters, actually stole two of them, and tried to take a third. Blizzard (the company behind WoW) is working to get them back, but she's not even able to log in to see all of the damage yet.
How did I handle this? I told her that I hope everything works out for the best. I told her to keep an eye on the computer: if stuff seems to have moved or changed or if she gets notices from other websites of suspicious activity, I can wipe everything off and reinstall from scratch.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement