OK, with the above said. You are right. Stealth and not raising any suspicion is very important right now. STICK TO THIS.
The key here is that when you pull the rug out from under her feet it must hit her like a ton of bricks. That means, the day prior or on the day you expose to her you do this all at once. You send her into a complete tailspin.
1) Cut off all her lines of communication you can (WITHOUT NOTICE)
2) Move your funds from the joint account into a personal one where she has no access.
3) Change the account your paycheck goes into.
Hold off on the exposure to OMW for a day or two.
This has to be a timed sequence of events.
I really liked that plan. Wait, you mean I do that BEFORE I expose to my W or to OM W? Confused now. I thought OM W was a priority. We haven't even discussed how I should expose to my wife.
But I just found already changed the paycheck of her new job not to go into join account. She's still paying for stuff like phone cards off the joint account.
Last edited by Fracesc; 03/21/1001:10 PM.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *