Peace, I get a little discouraged when I read your thread. I'm willing to do what I need to do to become a better person and to improve what I KNOW needs improvement. My W waited until it was too late in her mind to tell me. Now that she's finally communicated it to me, and I'm making a whole hearted effort, she won't give me the time.
You and the other WAW's that gave you advice sought help. You hadn't totally given up or else you wouldn't have been here. To my knowledge my W doesn't care to save the M. I could be completely wrong, but that's the impression I have.
My W has a H who is willing to listen to what she's saying. My W has a H who is willing to do what it takes. I've made great discoveries and strides in improving me since I've been over here dealing with my sitch. I will without a doubt go home feeling better about myself, and will continue to improve me.
However, I won't go home feeling any better about my sitch. My W and I will be separated from the moment I get home. I will be different, and she may or not notice or care. Unfortunately, only time will tell exactly what she's going to do. I know what I'm going to do.
I'm going to go home and spend as much time with two girls that love me. I'm going to continue to stay physically and mentally fit. I don't know what, but I'm going to find something I like to occupy time.
If she doesn't like what she sees, than thats on her. I just need to do my best to focus on me. Being away right now has me to focused on her, because of the unknowns of when I return
Married 18 Me 39 W 37 D 15 D 5 Divorce Filed 8 April 2010 Beginning of Reconcile 8 Sept