Your H definitely sounds like he's in a MLC from what I've read and heard. I think a WAS plan things out to a much greater degree than MLCers.
My H also displays most of those things, but has also had bouts of depression for years. There is a list of 36 questions on the 40/60 site about whether it's a MLC or not and I can give a definite yes answer to 29 of those questions for H. I believe my H is having a MLC complicated with andropause as I believe his testosterone level is very low. Can't be sure of any of it as he won't see a doc. Not my problem anymore. He'll work it out or he won't. I'm working very hard on the detaching thing because I can't fix this. Accepting that fact is me working on me, also.
It was pointed out to me that DB principles are the same whether it's a MLC or WAS. Asking questions, reading and listening to gain knowledge for understanding of why H is doing what he is doing, and working on me is the only thing I can do to bring me any peace with all of this.
