OP, just wandered over to the beginning of your thread. Your sitch sounds really hard.. I promise to keep reading on...
While there, I caught sight of a discussion in which it was said that often a MLC'er will view their LBS as their "Mum" or "Dad" & project any unresolved issues with said parent onto the LBS.
I have seen in the last few years how my WAH has been treating me more and more like his mother - esp in the rejection/flee her at all costs department.
Might not MLC behaviour at all...but has me thinking...
