OP, thanks for taking the time to read my sitch & for your well-wishes. I will go and take a look at your thread.

I promise to take care of my pregnancy to the best of my ability. And to concentrate on being a great mum & not get depressed.

But I am still a woman. My WH is the love of my life. Maybe that will change when the baby comes, and let's hope it changes him too as you say, but today my reality is this: a central relationship in my life needs DB'ing!!!

NC has been my way for the last two and a half weeks.

I am about to make contact with WH via email re finances etc.

I want to remain consistant, which means being DIM if not DARK.

I think gathering intel to find out if the A is contuning if I can, wouldn't hurt clarify where I stand.

And I am deciding whether to BO PEEP or play hardball.

Now's my chance.

Because come mid-late May, I will have a baby occupying me full time.