Its hard to hear advice like this, but I suppose you are right. I know the thing I need to be doing is to GAL, and setting firm boundries. My DR book has not arrived yet so I dont fully understand all the concepts, but I am keen to put them into practice. I read on another post (cant find which 1 it was) about the LBH who after bieng told to leave (and leaving) who then moved back to his home telling the Wthat he has a right to live in his own home and if she diddn't like it, she had the option to leave. Do you think that would be something to consider in my situation?