Why Bo Peep doesn't work

[lea74]

Having read this post I am now considering whether I have been using the wrong strategy.

I'm not sure if my H is having a MLC. He is 38Y, has been a director of a large company then last year, got essentially fired (he had decided to move out before he was fired), has been angry most of his life, has definitely shown signs of depression, can be very agressive and when he asked for D (well screamed it at me) he tried to hurt himself. He has always craved attention and says I never gave it to him. He complains when he doesnt get enough from others. He has before had a significant female friend and now again another female friend which I think has turned into a PA/EA. His complaints (amongst others) have been that he has always been abused financially (which is crap as I have always worked)and of course the ILYBNILWY.

When he first moved out, it was definitely a case of Bo Peep - best of both worlds and cake eating.

Things were going well when I was letting him have the best of both worlds, when I started to detach and go dark things were not going so well. He has filed for a D and essentially the final D it is only about 8 weeks away.

Do you think I had the wrong strategy??