How do you find a pre marriage counsellor? I did initially go to Relate for my first sessions alone.

It seems I've been doing 180s for a bit myself before finding this place. She said I'd NEVER go to relationship counselling (even though she never asked me outright) so I booked it straight after she ended it. I moved out calmly even though she had expected me to rant and rave and throw things.

So should I ask my solicitor to ask her to agree to some MC? And will it be of any use whilst she's still in the fog with my colleague?

Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.