OP and BA, thanks for trying to apply this to my sitch (sorry if I have taken over this thread-- will retreat back to mine asap). I believe my H's case is a combo WAS and MLC (MLC around the baby's arrival, freaked & not knowing 'how' to be a dad 'cos came from messed-up, fatherless background...THAT combined with heaps of other external pressures at one time - change of countries - to be specific, leaving his homeland, director of a company to unemployment, health issues, turning 40, confusing things even further by having an 'impossible' PA with woman 10,000kms away, etc etc. Totally in self destruction mode).
BA, totally agree about where the ball needs to be & it's up to me to put it there. Done 2.5 weeks of DARK..now need to lay down some hard boundaires.
