In no way was my question related to mb28's sitch.
I was lucky that my mother was completely stable and that once separated my parents parented well together and my father managed to control his addiction.( He's still a prickly old thing - esp. with my mother- but still 1000x better than when they were together).
June,
I am so sorry for your experiences.
I do wonder sometimes if it is because both my H and I come from broken homes that we did manage to fight so well to save our M in the end.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength