Ken, I don't have time to read your entire situation but I will tell you this:
1. YOU DO NOT GIVE HER YOUR PHONE. PERIOD.
2. You do not give her ANYTHING or provide ANYTHING that will enable her to continue her affair.
3. LISTEN to what Sandi is telling you. She KNOWS what she is talking about and has been giving you sound advice.
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What the hell is wrong with you? Next time she asks lead her into the kitchen, pull out the carving knife, put it in her hand and hold it against your heart. Then tell her, "Go on stick it in!!!! Just kill me and get this over with. Is that what you want? Do it. Go ahead and do it!"
GROW A PAIR and learn how to say "NO!!!"
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT