She needs to get out of her head and how SHE feels, a marriage is more important than how SHE feels right now, you guys have three kids and they pick up on this stuff... they feed off the mood in the home.. they aren't stupid.
Your wife needs to buckle down and run the gauntlet and stop worrying about how much it hurts her.
Heck, a dentist drill hurts, but I would rather have that than lose a tooth
