I just typed Divorce Children Risk into Google, there's pages and pages of stuff...
The thing is. your description of hosuehold conflict, yes, separation should occur.
I woudl reccomend protection for mother and children for any sort of substance abuse or addiction, including infidelity.
NO child should have to be exposed to hosuehold conflict, but I don't think divorce is a viable solution to that from what I am reading. They have double the risk of growing up with emotional problems - insecurity, etc
Phil McGraw says something I love quoting :
Children are better of being from a broken home than being in one.
So, sure, if the household is a mess, get them out of there... but what about a third option?
a. Divorce b. keep family together in perpetual conflict c. Pursue therapy to fall in love again
Everyone just thinks a looks so great when they are in the middle of b. And they feel so hopeless they think c is just history...
If you look at pp 21- 22 of MWD's Divorce Remdey she's done extensive research on divorce and its effects on families.. it does NOT make families better off... its right in MWD's own book... don't need to look further than that.
Apprently Deprssion is three times as high in divorced women as it is in married women... lovely statistic that is... read those pages, MWD spends her whole first chapter blasting divorce... she does a wonderful job.
Now, I wouldn't reccomend this if mb28's husband was a violent alcoholic etc, but that's not at all what we are dealing with here.
We are talking about a man who less than a month ago broke down and hugged his wife and told her he loved her... does that sound like a man who is ready for divorce?
I think that sounds like a man who hasn't explored marriage therapy much if at all and thinks Divorce is a wonderful solution...
mb28 has characterized her husband as being quite loving and affectionate, maybe a bit stubborn and emotional, but certainly not a horrible man. He wasn't getting as much attention according to mb28 so he went elsewhere or it...
This does NOT sound like a marriage that's hopeless and should be tossed in the garbage does it?
Divorce is NOT going to make things any better.
In your case Saffie, yes, mabye your parents would not have been able to work things out... Alcoholism is a terrible addictiont o have to wrestle with... I had to deal with it in my own home...
I don't see a hopeless marriage here.. but I do see a tragedy that Mr mb28 is charging twoards blindly and bullying his wife into accepting.
