Frac, I'm going to say this one more time: C A L M D O W N
You seem to be under the impression that this is a race when it's not. Time and patience are your allies here. THERE IS NO RUSH.
Do NOT do a thing until you have a PLAN OF ACTION established and have weighed the consequences. You are firing off response after response after response. This signifies PANIC and EXCITEMENT. i.e. you're swinging on the opposite site of the emotional pendulum.
It is absolutely IMPERATIVE that you get yourself on an even keel. The 4C's: Cool, calm, collected and confident. You have nothing to fear.
- Pull out a notepad and pen - Go back an re-read every bit of advice. - Make notes and formulate your plan - Gather your questions - Let things sink in
Then come back here to post your questions and share what you think your plan should be. You have been given great advice so far. Some of it is tactical, some of it strategic. This is why you don't go off half-cocked. Every action you take will have consequences (GOOD and BAD) this is why you need to prepare yourself for it. You prepare so there will be no surprises.
A lot of people go in half-cocked and unprepared. I don't want to see this happen to you. Sure you are going to make mistakes. We all have. You have the advantage that you are open to listening to people that have walked the path you're about to take.
When your plan is up there we will see it and can advise you on more or less what to expect. So calm down. This is just the beginning of a long process. The less mistakes you make the sooner you can dig yourself out of this hole.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT