RR - And yes, you did tell me so and I didn't believe you. I didn't believe Gno at first either. He had to work very hard to convince me. I protested. But you two were right - thank you !!!!
It was worth it to "hear" the joy in your post today.
Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
MC says it's not in what you are talking about , it's how you talk. I couldn't agree more.
YUP! It's all in your voice tonality, the words you choose and your body language.
You Gno where to find me if you want another kick in the head
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
After doing many Passover dinners, I will share the only thing that gets me through all the cooking (cuz there's also all the cleaning). Make the whole soup in advance, matzah balls and all. If you get that out of the way, then it's just like cooking a regular dinner for guests. And for dessert, something that is totally not cake, rather than flourless cake works well, like chocolate mousse, or fruit and ice cream or sorbet.
THanks friends, I am still trying to hold that this is positive, not my H dumping a bunch of work on me. We'll see....the vote so far is that it is an honor and a step in the right direction.
Having one of those days I'm panicking there's an OW. He hasn't mentioned one since last August, but there's still the mysterious SAturday disappearances.
Maybe it's just my own doubt. It just feels better to vent here thanks.
H4L, I hope that your M is moving in a direction where you will eventually not have to have doubts like that. There is so much rebuilding that needs to happen that it's understandable that you'd wonder. hugs to you.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
THx FM it's part of my not knowing how to act - we're in piecing, I guess which as I have discussed recently means acting more open and forward with him. However, when I panic, I think I should pullback and prepare for the worse. I am so scared that now I"m beginning to trust and have faith, I'll be hurt.
I"m hoping it's only fear and that OW fears are unfounded. Gno thinks H did it just to "hurt me" or "get me back" this summer but that he's not the type of person to cheat long term. Also that he is showing all these positive signs and I need to have faith in them and in myself for changing enough to get us here.
Can you ask for reassurance in a calm and dignified way?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Self soothing definitely far to early to ask for reassurance, im reluctant to do that even now, although gradually getting better with time.. It's hard because they like to feel the man but not the pressure.
Ok common sense talking now who only has a OW on just saturday? I know some folks on here see A's round every corner, but trust does have to start some where!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
