1. What about the joint account. I can get my paycheck changed as of tomorrow so it wont go through the joint one account.
2. The phone bill is on my name on the old place. Should I cancel that and let them cut her internet?
Again, my worry with those actions is not that my wife gets upset but that she'll notice that I'm weird and suspect that I know about the affair. She knows I know her email's password.
IMO, this is not the time to do those things.
Given that she knows you know her email password, I would think she would get suspicious quite easily. In view of this information, I would be inclined to wait until she contacts you about meeting, and then reply via email or text that you are busy until after next weekend.
