DR warns about pursuit and to my mind that's pursuit.
The problem is what your wife wanted THEN isn't what may help now.
I can give you an example from my own home easily. My wife complained that I never got her flowers... so the same day I went out and bought some... do you think that went over well?
Not at all... I got "I don't want them NOW... NOW you bring me these? I wanted these YEARS ago"
You see, your wife is in a different state of mind and what was black is now white etc
I am not saying it wont' work, but you really have to tread lightly here.
My advice is usually to do what you can to change the person you are without bothering her directly.
You can buy flowers for the house, you can invite friends for dinner and cook for them, you can buy people gifts, you can call family up and have a warm conversation asking how they are and offering to help etc.
All of these things don't bother your WIFE at ALL, but at the same time she will get to observe safely from a distance that you are a different man than you haev been before.
I really don't recommnd addressing the wife directly to communicate that you have changed for the better.
Its your call, but if you get the sense what you are doing is working, I would keep that up...
And based on a lot of her responses, I am getting the distinct feeling unless she shows you or tells you otherwise, she mostly just wants to be left alone.
