Flowmom, I am concerned for the harm a hurried divorce will do to everyone over there, not to mention this will put OWH's marriage in jeapoardy as well since WS here will be free to attack that after a divorce on his end.

And no, it won't be pursuit as long as mb28 is not involved to my mind... H won't like it, but just hiding out hoping for the best .. I can't see that helping anyone in the long run.

There is risk of harm to mb28 in allowing her husband into bullying her into a divorce as well.

I really don't like the situation either way. Divorce hurts people, and arguing for marriage hurts too...

The healthiest route as far as i see it is ask others to support you in having a talk with H to temper any drastic changes in a person's life right now...

Forcing or bullying your spouse into divorce isnt' going to make her any healthier either really... but I do unerstand people only can take so much...

I have been reading a lot of articles on the damage divorce does to children for the better part of the afternoon... I dont' blame any parent for doing what they can to stave off being bullied into divorce...

Its shocking how much damage divorce can do to a child, I hadn't been aware how much research was available until I started reading this afternoon.. there's miles of it.