This man is so selfish it is frustrating to read about.
I like Allen's ideas.

If this guy wants so badly to D to "help" you. Let him attend a session or two with your therapist and argue his logic with the therapist and not you. Just like Saffie after her attempt the therapist told her husband that the husband's behavior was making things worse.

Have you talked at all to the OW's husband? What ever came of that?

I know you may want to take a break from the drama and not contact the OW husband also.

I am so frustrated at your husband- as if HE know's what is best for you and not you.

Stay strong! Do not let him suck you down into despair.


M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)