CB, my friend... glad I found you here. I want to keep following along.
We joined this family around the same time, and we experienced similar ups and downs to our journey around the same time. I will never forget that.
Although our sitches have turned out differently, there is so much that is shared.
We have both grown so much, learned so much.
I am so proud of both of us!
You sound like you are doing really, really well.
I can relate to your memories of everything you experienced in the darkest moments. I will never forget the pain of discovering your worst nightmare has come true. It will be with us forever. But, we have a choice to move on and move forward and we each have done that in our own ways.
I will try to follow when I can because you continue to inspire me!
Hey CB. Found your new thread after a few rounds with the boys.
Im probably in no condition to post now but I had to say a few words LOL.
The key words that I can relate to are DBing, Listening, Running, Trust, Acceptance and Unconditional Love.
I can not overplay how important these are when dealing with the cards we were all dealt with.
And I can also relate to being an old softy after 40. Seems I get more emotional every year whereas in my 20s I could care less about anything or anybody. Life and love seems to catch up with us in a hard way in our late 30s and early 40s.
I am dealing with trying to convey all my lifes lessons to my 20yr old son (he is in love (lust) right now. I pray to God that he does not make the same mistakes I made. And I am here to try and steer him into making the correct decisions.
With that said I have to say that I am a bit of a hypocrit as I may be falling in love all over again. No, forget what I just posted. It's the wine talking.
Take care my band of brothers. I will stick to this thread like glue as CB is light years ahead of us. We can only hope to emulate his wisdom and strenth. Stay strong CB. We will take your advice to heart. The value of friends and family can not be overplayed. Keep them by your side and in your heart.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
(((CB))) Thank you for answering my questions. And I'm sorry that it was painful to do so. That event sounds very hurtful -- I'm sorry you had to live that. Being the LBS is hard enough. It does help me to understand how you got to where you are emotionally, and I find that very helpful.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Thank you all so much for your kind words. I am deeply touched my friends. I have been busy. Writing and living. And prostrating about moving. Does packing a house ever get started? Can I say that I moved 6 boxes to the top floor count as packing?
I have discovered that I like to write Updates later in the week. 13 more sleeps till vacation Ya-huh!
quick updates. 2 races coming up 10km on april 4th and 8 km on april 10th.
Signed up for 2 more races in May and June. Next half in July. I turn 40 in July so I am running a race. Inviting friends to join in the fun. There is a 5KM , 10KM and 20KM. Its at the beaches Jazz festival in Toronto. So a race in the morning and jazz in the park for the afternoon. Surrounded by friends and family. Is there anything better in life??? DB friends are welcome to attend as well
In communication with ladybug about selling the house. The real-estate agent and I both believe she thinks this will all automagically happen. So looks like I do this all by myself as well. Better done properly than half a55. One thing I have learned in the term LBS the L does not stand for Lazy.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Your running/jazz day does sound great . The vacation sounds greater
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
