But I responded that joint physical custody isn't about money, it's about the fact we've always had a 50/50 relationship when it comes to their upbringing and I will not settle for less.
I also will not agree to giving up Sunday nights with them.
I have a feeling custody is often about the money. My idea is that they should, in the ideal world, look at the years before the D. I know in my state that is one of the factors in the statutes that the judge is supposed to look at; what the custody arrangement was like before the divorce process.
In my case, my X was a barely-there dad for 16 years before the D. He started taking them 50% of the time, against my will, 2 months before the final divorce hearing. It makes me sick that a parent would do that kind of thing. Same thing in your case.
In my state they usually seem to do 50/50 or one night and every other weekend to parents that aren't that involved. That seems fair to me.
I think you should fight as much as you can for 50% and I think from what you say that shouldn't be a problem. What does your L say?
I do think you might want to save any emails you have where your W stated that she needed full custody for financial reasons. Makes it pretty obvious what's going on I would think to any judge.
I also think you shouldn't email or discuss any of the custody arrangements with your W. Just leave it to the Ls. That kind of discussion is pointless.
