New Year... New Life!

[sandycay]

I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression of FFG.... the hotness is just gravy cause he is a super nice man, awesome dad, and all around good guy.

He's a christian (attends church even when he doesn't have his kids and active in it, dependable, good relationship with his whole family, loves his job, happy with himself, confident, active, we share same values on our kids, time and money. We have no problem with some of our "dates" are just getting a run in together because schedules and times without kids is few and far between.

[sandycay]

Well, I am not a page 6 girl ~so a small update is in order LOL

Well, the D is still not final. Seems STBXH has the L that is doing the retirements quite confused and mislead (again) so hopefully that is straightened out and the documents are being drafted as I type. (One can hope) Anyway if we don't have it finalzed by March 25th we have to choose a trial date. Which since no one is contesting anything would seem very unneccesary. Is it crazy that an uncontested divorce (meaning we agreed on everything and no fighting, so just document drafting) is now upwards of 6,000.00? Crazy!

More crazy is I am paying for it!

Anyway, hopefully by the end of this week.

STBX finally got into town last Wednesday after being gone to the Olympics for the past 5 weeks. He called a total of 3 times while he was gone. He did not see the kids until Saturday, then it was for a 2 hour dinner. Wow, thanks for the help!

Also, I told him I would drive the kids up to Vancouver (3hrs) to visit him (since he told me, he can't afford the gas to come and visit while he was staying up there) he never offered onc for them to come up. Such a wasted opporunity since we live so close to the festivities. Anyway, if I had not seen my kids in 5 weeks I think I would not have waited 4 days since I had been back in town to see them. SAD

He called to say he would be late to that because he had to fix something on his boat first. Kids are always the priority. Haven't seen them in 5 weeks and got to this, that and the other first. It seems like the electrical almost caught it on fire! So burned up a bunch of wiring. Also, one of the motors has quit working twice and the bilge pump stopped working too.

Ahh Karma! I thought the boat was suppose to be cheaper! LOL

FFG and I are doing very well. I think that STBXH has said he will take the kids this weekend and FFG doesn't have his kids this weekend so I hope STBXH comes thru and visits his kids because MOM needs a break and it's the weekend before finals.

So, I may get a whole weekend with FFG and studying all to myself! Do I hear a WOOT WOOT!

I am trying not to get to excited though because... well... we all know what can happen when I assume STBXH is going to act like a father. pfffft!

[BobbiJo]

WOOT WOOT!!!

Hope it works out for you....you need a free weekend after having the kids on your own for so long...

I thought of you at my parenting class last weekend...seems there is a law in IA that to have any visitation/custody privileges, you MUST provide adequate shelter for all children at your residence. They said a couch did not count, there must be a bed for each child and a place for them to keep belongings, or you didn't qualify for visitation...

Wonder how the boat would measure up?

[Kalni]

WOOT WOOT!!!
LOL
Hugs
K

[smith18]

Boat - a hole in the water into which one pours money.

Hey, I found a picture of your STBXH on his boat.

[sandycay]

OMG my nickname for him is Donkey! I must forward to FFG!

Kerry ~ I love you!

Thanks K ~ thinking of you

Bobbi J ~ standard rules don't apply to STBXH because he's "special" and if you don't believe me ask that narcassitic Ba$tard yourself!

He was told all of this anyway, and he didn't believe it. After all, the L are only professionals in D proceedings.

[sandycay]

Hey Kerry~ Thanks for the topic for my big paper. I ended up 250 points out of 250 points for the paper. Those barista's!

Anyway, weird and sad stuff (for the kids) here. STBXH did take the kids all weekend last weekend. The kids were miserable.

He dropped them off on Sunday afternoon and hasn't spoken to them since.

Although, during one of our conversations this week due to his difficulty understanding the D process he told me he was leaving on April 20 for a month. So, he wants to see the kids as much as possible but he's not availble Sat. night. OK?

Well, interestingly enough were the kids and I live you have to pay a toll to cross a bridge and our cars are still attached to the same account. I accessed the account and don't you know that man has been over that bridge 8 times late at night in the past 10 days and not been in touch with his kids. This is the same donkey that b!tches about the toll to his kids everytime he sees them. Or uses the excuse to not get them because God forbid they have activities over here and he has to bring them back and forth.

He has been riding their @sses for months over this issue. I am p!ssed off. I told him to not say another word about that bridge toll. He doesn't know I know that he is over here. I have put 2 and 2 together. From what my D told me about someone he was texting... she snooped because he was being secretive and told me the ladies name and that D thought he worked with her.

Well the name matches a lady (she used to be married/no kids) that does live here in the Harbor and they do work together.... duh! I guess some things are worth crossing the bridge for!

So skip to last night, I am bring S home from swim practice at 9 and there is his Dads car sitting up our street at a neighbors house. Now, you would think that A)he knows we would driveby
B) he could have offered to go pick up son so he could atleast seee him

Well, S is seriously p.o. and he says let me know when the D is final because I am going to have a long conversation with him and tell him I don't want to see him till he can change is negative thinking. The kids know their dad has been coming over the bridge and not seeing them and after the riding they have been getting from him... I told them to not listen to it anymore.

I am documenting all this for "who knows what" but honestly ~ these kids have activities 7 days a week~ I am in school full time, and I have this big old house to care for.

So, I spent the last two days off packing up all his stuff, becuase he thinks he should be able to "store" his stuff here. "You, can just put it in the attic, it doesn't cost you anything to do that and I can't afford a rental room to store it" No way Buddy, I want a complete exorcism from your crap. I am packing it up nicely and will have it finished before the D is final/.... hopefully next week and then call him and have him come pick it up. Along, with the boat that is taking up my 3rd garage space. Geesh, he thinks he should be able to store the boat here because he wants to keep it and use it during the summer. LMAO Yes, the MLC jerk is owner of not 1 but 2 boats.

I couldn't sleep last night because his proximity to my house was very unnerving as was on Tuesday when he called to pick up paper work and we were arranging for a time to meet. I said I coudl meet him later and he said "can't you bring it outside?" Freaked me out..... he was in the driveway. Thus ending the streak ~ I hadn't seen him since mid January. Bliss when he is not here!

The friends house he was at .... FFG and I were at on Sat night at a party. I also got the chance to introduce FFG to his boss. He lives in the 'hood too!

[sandycay]

Boat - a hole in the water into which one pours money.

Hey, I found a picture of your STBXH on his boat.

Downloaded it to my phone so it's now the picture that shows up when he calls, now to find a ringtone that says HEE~HAW!

[BobbiJo]

What a total JACKASS!!!!

So does he know at all that you are aware of his 'extracurricular activities'? Totally the actions of a man who doesn't want a divorce cause he loves you too much...geez!

Glad you are still having fun with FFG though...I need to find me one of those!

I am thinking I will have to run a race in the Seattle area this year...

[sandycay]

Yes... great summer destination... look at the rock-n-roll... FFG and I are running it. just the 1/2 though!

No, he doesn't know that I know. I never reveal, I just keep it all documented cause if I want to move out of the school district....I have to have his permission...or go before a judge and plead my case. So, I have a nice one! Anyway it sucks because he doesn't live in school district so why should I, he doesn't help with anything to do with the kids.

It's all good. FFG and kids are on the way over to spend the day. We have so much fun with our families together.