Not sure which way to go anymore

[flowmom]

Mystik, I think you're right to protect yourself and your ds. It's not clear if he wants back to be with you or out of guilt about ds. Maybe this would be a good time to ask to discuss it with a MC? If you suggest a MC make sure it's one that meets the criteria discussed in Divorce Remedy. Bad MC is worse than none at all. Both of you are making this about apartments and rentals and leases. This needs to be about what's right for your ds and for both of you. I would not recommend allowing him to cut back child support...that could work against you. If you want to help him you could accept his child support payments, then loan him money with clear terms. He made the choice to leave you and your ds. Make sure he's in the pursuer role when it comes to reconciliation. And read Why Men Love Bitches. Dumb title, useful info.