I like what antlers said. Although, I've heard myself from a to-be-attorney -- I didn't hire him -- that some people like to rake them through the coals. Never could understand that phrase (or frame-of-thought). I guess I have a lot to learn.
Take care of yourself, and be good to your soul.
poet
p.s. I can't believe I'm putting this out there for all to see. Ugh! Your begging rang true here too. I never really begged, just got thrown off onto the floor a time or two. Thought it was part of being married. Never had a clue I was ever being disresptected. boo hoo. Poor me. (No, not feeling self-pity anymore, just throwing it in there for effect.)