8 weeks until D Day!!

[flowmom]

Lea, I hope that you can get some IC. At times I have been able to get it at very low cost. Please look into options into this area. We can use all the support we can get here! It feels good to have an IRL person who you can say anything to and they're in YOUR corner.

I can see how your past is contributing to your current pain around being abandoned. This is an opportunity for us to heal some of that past stuff and become more whole...as painful as our sitches are. This would be a good thing to talk to an IC about.

A huge trigger for you is the OW's R with your sons. I TOTALLY GET this, and I'll be exactly where you are soon, most likely. But I think that this is something you have to ACCEPT. This is outside of your area of control and you are torturing yourself trying to control it. No one can take away your role as a mother. And to be the best mother you can be, you can't afford to waste your energy trying to control how things go with your sons and your H. Instead, plan fun activities to do with your sons and think about how to make this time grounding and peaceful for them.

Please let the L deal with all financial/legal stuff. And go dark except for coparenting (which does not include talking about contact between OW and your sons -- you can't win that battle).

(((Lea)))