I'm going to chime in here as well..Newbie though I am to all this... I've been following along with your sitch and am impressed at how graciously you've been accepting of all the wood flying..(well meaning and deserved though they are)

Cat04 is right... didn't your wife say she would consider moving to MA with you? Perhaps this is her way of wanting to start fresh with you in a new environment? Of perhaps comprimising with you as she knows how you feel about your career?

Perhaps that is why she went closer to OM... to start fresh as things in your M weren't working for her... She doesn't want to go back to where you are now.. I wouldn't either if I felt it would represent going backwards in my M too.. (I'm making an assumption that is what she may be feeling)

The fact that she seemed open to the possiblity of moving to MA seems like she isn't sure that OM is in her future either...

Something to consider or explore?

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