Well I'm trying really hard not to be angry you guys it's so hard..hardest thing I've ever done in my life.
H left early this morning (for a haircut) and has been gone for 4 hours now. I text him because he is supposed to do some yard work today and said, "you done?" and no response to text or call...my older son called him too...no answer either.
How do I create a boundary here when he doesn't care what I say?
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
luv, don't text him. Leave him be...the yard work can wait and it's not your concern, it's his. Don't text him asking 'you done?' even he's gone for the whole week. Just say 'DS wants to talk to you can you please call him when you get a chance, thanks'.
You create a boundary by not caring about yard work etc. The more you take on the responsibility the less he will. Just let it go, don't even talk about it. The best thing you can do right now is to just leave him to himself and work on yourself. Look good, go out, show that you're full of life and fun.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I just want to log this for info H was gone for 6 hours. He put 139 miles on his car (he said he was a place that was 20 miles away) he obviously went to see ow.
Ok I'm done just wanted to put this down. I'm gonna go have some beers with some friends and get away from him.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Thanks SR - I know all that I do but he is leaving next week and want him to get some things done around the house.
Reframe this to
I need things done around my house. If my partner is not going to get them done then I will hire them done as my time is precious too.
Then go out & hire the hottest looking yard care provider you can find for the day he is due to come back from his trip & make sure you are planted in a lawn chair on the back deck watching/admiring the work get done when he comes home.
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