I just thought that if he didn't seem certain about the divorce, but then realized I had talked to a lawyer it might turn into "well SHE's seeing a lawyer, so she must be certain, so I better get a lawyer." and the next thing we both have lawyers doing a divorce we both really don't want. (or at least I don't want it)
When he talked about divorce I asked him if he had seen a lawyer and he said no, had just gotten info off of the internet. So far he has not told anyone else about this, I thought that might be part of his indecision. If he was really certain, wouldn't he want to trumpet this to the skies? Seeing that our marriage was such a mistake and now he's found his true soulmate (or so he thinks). However, no mention to anyone at work, or his family, or family lawyer or accountant. I guess I also hoped that he didn't because he was actually ashamed of what he was doing. Not sure if that works in my favor or not.
This is all so confusing.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
