I'm not saying everything is about sex, I only said what I would have thought in my stitch. Leaving "gifts" on the pillow in the bedroom is a very sexual & romantic suggestion. I never had any relative or friends to leave a gift on my pillow!
A WAW is not usually in the mood for that sort of pressure. Your ideal of accepting gifts may be different from others. I can't see accepting gifts from a person I can't stand to be around......and that's usually the case with a WAW with her H.
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Even when I didn't like my H, I was always happy to accept gifts! i can put aside hard feelings for a little while if someone wants to do something nice for me
That just seems WRONG any way you look at it.....to me. Very selfish/self centered. Princess behavior!
I don't want to get into an argument about any of this, but I have read a lot of your posts, Lotus, and most of the advise you give would be good for marriage-relationship improvements(before the W is ready to walk out),but when the W is ready for a D and wants to walk out the door, too much of what you say is very pursuing and too late to work in in most WAW cases.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
