You certainly nailed it when you said that the ultimate 180 for me would be to not fight this at all. I think throughout our marriage I was always the 'fixer' and the one who tried to make things right.
I realized something on thursday. That is our day off from work, and the last time he wanted to talk about divorce he brought it up that day. So I must admit I was nervous this past week and also perhaps feeling a bit defeated. I did yardwork, he was in the house and I just kind of let him be. At dinner time, he offered to cook and produced a wonderful meal and dessert. After dinner, rather than disappearing into the TV set as usual, he offered to play a game - it just floored me! We ended up playing multiple rounds of three different games until bed time. He was laughing and joking the whole time, it was like my old husband was back. At bedtime he followed me upstairs and started flirting, and we ended up having well, a rather energetic interlude (I blush to write anything more descriptive). It was like a second honeymoon and all I could wonder was - why the heck did that happen???
Was it really so obvious in my mood that I had 'given up' and he could somehow read that? Had it drawn him towards me? There was no actual relationship or divorce talk to communicate this so I don't know if it was related to anything I did or not.
Thank you for reminding me that nothing is impossible.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
