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[pigskin]

Sandi raises a good point. Do you think if the roles were reversed and YOU were in the EA that your wife would have let you come anywhere near her, let alone "service" her? She would be sending a powerful message that the situation is unacceptable and you can't buy her off with sex.

I think you gave her the message that she can have you whenever she wants. As a man, I completely understand how unbelievably tempting that situation was, and I'm not sure I could have resisted that temptation either. But sometimes sending a message requires a lot of sacrifice on our part.