OK, when you told her to not contact him again, unfortnatley a few things happened
1. The means of ending contact was left open 2. She's addicted so she took advantage of that
This isnt' easy for her to do Wedge, we can't just ask her to stop and expect that to happen.
That's what the transparency is for.
If your wife makes a commitment to stopping but she won't do the following :
1. Remove any passwords on her phone 2. OPen up all telephone usage records 3. Allow you to look at the phone when you feel panic 4. Share her PC with you when you feel panic
She's still cheating and she's still hiding it.
If your wife won't be transparent with you, there's a REASON for it...
THOSE WHO HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE, HIDE NOTHING
Finding out about a pa is a VERY rough time I know, it took me two weeks to wrestle through it until reality sunk in and I started to realize it is HORRIBLY painful, but sex isn't why I mada commitment to my wife, so it shouln't be the reason I end that commitment.
You do need to understand that addictions are VERY hard to end and this guy is MANIPULATING HER BIGTIME
She needs you to protect her from that, not to go crazy on her.. this is a very important time, do not bail.
You can do this, you just can't see it right now... A healthier persepective takes time to take shape... you will be proud that you fought this thing.
