Is it an emotonal affair?

[Wedge5]

So, I confronted her about the emotional affair. Told her that she needed to stop contacting the OM. She said she would. Last night, her phone was next to my work phone. I heard a phone type noise and went to check. It was not my phone, but hers. I looked at it, and it was a text from the OM. I asked her about stopping contact and she said that she was trying to do that when she texted him, and he didn't reply until later in the day.

Here's where the story changes. After that she admitted that the affair had become physical. She went to see him twice while she was visiting her home town, and well, you know what happened. She is still telling me that she wants to work on our marriage. I don't know what to do. I was finally beginning to deal with the emotional affair, and then she drops this bomb.

Going to look for a therapist today. I don't think I can do this. I don't want to divorce her, but I am not sure I can continue. The EA was one thing, but the physical part I'm not sure I can forget. I know I can forgive, but how can I live with the memory of it happening?

Any help is appreciated. Thanks to everyone for their help so far.