How would you piece this?

[Mystik]

I know that H will suggest a three bedroom apartment together while we work on the marriage and work towards sharing a room again. I want to live separately and go through the whole dating thing again until I know for sure that it's going to work, I do not want DS to be hurt any more than he already has been.

So for those with experience, how does piecing work? Is it living apart and dating, living together but at the same time apart, or go back in with both feet to sharing a room, acting all couple-y?

H couldn't wait for his deadline, we've talked a bit about working things out. He does want to go with the 3 bedroom, but understands my hesitations and desire for two separate places. So while we are not working on things yet, the time for that is coming. H has clearly stated he would not be comfortable living together and sharing a room at first so I am scratching that idea. I am, however, planning on telling him that I strongly want to do marriage counseling, with a person neither of us already knows so the counselor will be completely impartial.

So, in your, the reader's, experience, which would be the best route for when the time comes to piece: 3 BR or two separate places?