!Help! Need Advice and encouragement!

[stark648]

Well, I was cordial and nice and never said anything like that.

She was going to bring d-11 back home Thursday night, but then called and wanted to keep her over another night. I said "sure"-and told d-11 goodnight on the phone.

She told the girls she would take them to the zoo Saturday, after she got paid Friday, but instead, she brought d-11 home Friday AM and poof--went out of town for weekend with boyfriend. So no zoo Saturday!

The girls were mad and hurt. I told them that's just the way she is...she had been like that even when we were still together. I had always told her not to PROMISE-use "maybe" for things with the kids, but she was let them down a lot.

This is the last few days of Spring Break. She told them maybe she could take them somewhere when she got back on Sunday. (I think she knows I'm taking them to the rodeo Sunday). She always loved to go to the rodeo and this year tried to weasel free tickets from me-.---But I'm taking them this year-using my company's tickets, etc.

I have another date tomorrow with the same woman from last week--I thought the girls would be at the zoo. I told girls I didn't want to break the date; I stick to my word as best I can to both the girls and other people.

I may see if the woman would like the zoo instead of lunch and a movie, but I don't know if it's too soon for girls to have Dad with someone else, and I'm not sure I'M wanting a group thing vs. a date. I need some date time.

I did spend some time with the girls tonight.

It really bugs me what Wife did to them--and not only that, she and boyfriend are going to a town that W and I had gone to on one of our FEW vacations from the kids!! That was a nice getaway for US! I think boyfriend's mom lives there.

I have had some other women interested in me, but I have steered away from some that would get physical really quick.
(Although I REALLY miss sex)

IT'S FRUSTRATING TO THINK WIFE IS DOING IT ALL THE TIME, and I am supposed to be "good" and set a good example, do what God wants me to do, etc.

I don't want my relationship with God messed up, but it is especially hard to go without sex under these circumstances. But I also don't want to hurt some other woman's feelings. No matter what they say, most women don't have sex without emotions involved.

On another note, the girls are concerned about their mother coughing more than ever (she smokes more now, also). I told them W said she had bronchitis, (but they say it's the cigarettes).


Any encouraging words,thoughts, or advice about any of this rambling I've been doing???


Thanks so much...