She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

Nothing new has transpired. I was letting her make all the contact for about a month now. I back pedaled on her birthday when I called and questioned her about the post card. Other than that day, and since then, I have left all the contact up to her.

Again it's been only a month, but that's a huge step for me. I just keeping thinking about the fact that she had ths divorce plan in place before I left. That's what has gotten my tone different.

For the first time since this began, I contacted attornies yesterday. I emailed 7 attornies and told them the sitch and what my rights were. Up until yesterday I didn't want to contact an attorny until I got home.

Although my preference would be to avoid a D, I still need to make sure I'm covered. I did find out that her plan of my 6 months over here counting as part of our separation doesn't count. Under the sailors and soldiers act my deployment time doesn't count towards separation.

I'm trying so hard to detach, and have gotten much better at it. However I'm still consumed by the sitch. I keep it all to myself and talk to others. i do not email or call her about anything.

For the first time in 17 1/2 years I'm ok with not talking to my W everyday. It took me some time, but not contacting her has become very easy. i still like it when she calls or emails, but I won't be the one to initiate it.