Hi, this is my first post and any comments/help are appreciated.
My wife asked me to separate while on a trip to celebrate our 4th anniversary. I was amazed to pick up DR and see almost exact quotes of her motivations for giving up on our marriage. "I don't hate you, I just don't love you" is in her top 3.
DR has been very helpful but I have a major problem. My wife is a big, big, BIG supporter of the law of attraction. She's been unemployed for almost a year and has focussed all of her energies in finding answers through this belief. She has shown signs of depression and that has made her even more vulnerable to this. (I even think law of attraction has played a major role in her depression because she sets herself incredible high expectations that are never met).
My problem is that she's trying to explain this whole thing from the perspective of the Law of Attraction and how this is a step towards happiness, etc and hundreds (yes, hundreds) of online friends are supporting her in this decision.
I feel so powerless.
I would do anything so she could just take sometime and see all of these with a clear mind. No LoA, no divorced girlfriends coaching her, etc. I just want us to make an informed decision.
So at one point I thought of sharing Divorce Remedy with her and just ask her to read the first 2 chapters in the hope that she could at least open the possibility that this crisis could be caused by many factors. (obviously I will assume full responsability for my part)
We're due to meet in 1 week (her choice) to discuss what's going to happen. I don't have many high hopes as she's been bubbly and upbeat about her new found life and her facebook friends obviously, celebrate this.
And I'm just trying to find the strength to go through this. Any help, is welcome. Is asking her to read the book a good idea?
I appreciate your help. I would call a divorce busting coach but I really can't afford it right now as I had to move and it was really expensive.
Pls, anybody out there?
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *